Not Enough Alone

In recent years, we have often heard a certain kind of sentence:

"I am very happy on my own."

"I don't need anyone."

"I have fun by myself too."

These are good things. People should be able to spend time alone and not fear solitude. But sometimes we may be romanticizing this idea a little too much.

Because humans are, above all, social beings.

We see this often in psychiatric practice as well. People's happiest moments are usually not the achievements they experience alone, but the experiences they share with others. A concert, a journey, a long dinner, a conversation that lasts until morning, or simply watching the same sunset together…

In fact, it matters not only that we enjoy ourselves, but also that the moment we enjoy is seen and shared by someone else.

Science supports this too. Our brain experiences positive emotions more intensely when we share them. A landscape pleases us when we see it alone. When we see the same landscape with people we love, that moment takes a much deeper place in our memory.

Perhaps that is why some things feel incomplete when done alone.

Music is one of them.

Listening to a track at home is nice. But when you hear the same track with hundreds of people, it becomes something different. At that moment it is no longer just music; it is a shared experience.

Sunsets are like that too.

So are dining tables.

So are laughs.

The power of having fun together emerges right here. When people begin to move to the same rhythm, an invisible bond forms even if they do not know one another. For a few hours, they take part in the same story.

Perhaps that is why when we return home from certain events, we do not only feel that we had fun. We also feel that we belonged.

Modern life taught us individualism. Standing on our own feet, being able to be alone, being self-sufficient…

All of these are valuable.

But sometimes there is something we forget:

Feeling good is not only an individual experience.

Some emotions grow in a crowd.

Some memories are created together.

Some sunsets are beautiful alone, unforgettable together.

Perhaps the point is not being able to have fun alone.

Perhaps the point is finding people we can have fun with together.